4 mistakes to avoid when speaking with ‘elders’
We know we should approach each individual in a unique way. However, we can run into trouble when we slip into generalizing our communication style with older homeowners.
Several years ago I came across an excellent article in LifeHacker which I will summarize for the purposes of reflection and consideration. Can you improve your communication style? Let’s review the most common communication faux pas we can easily make.
#1. We treat them differently because they’re older
We don’t mean to, but sometimes we can unknowingly patronize our potential borrowers with childish phrases and intonation. “For example, we might use “sweetie” or “dear” or talk in a high-pitched voice. Such “elderspeak” is usually taken as an insult. It seems obvious, but you might not even realize you do it”, writes Mihir Patkar. Instead, speak in a normal down and avoid dumbing things down using an overly-simplified vocabulary. And whatever you do, don’t shout at them speaking loudly for no reason.
#2. We overlook their challenges
There’s patronizing and then there’s accommodating. If someone is hearing impaired be sure to sit directly in front of them. Though we don’t think about it, much of our verbal communication is reinforced by the movement of our lips and the shape of our mouths.
#3. We forget they have something to offer us
Many, if not most, of my older borrowers, were smarter than me and possessed skills I had never acquired. Remember the person sitting in front of you is likely a young mind in an older body. Each year I’m reminded of this when I look in the mirror. People are people with dreams, hopes, heartaches, successes, and failures- just like you.
Without patronizing we can show respect for their lifetime of experience and wisdom. This is a great opportunity to get to know their outlook on life and their personal finances. That insight can help you better determine how a reverse mortgage could fit into their long-term plan for retirement security.
Respect, understanding, and affirmation. Three things that we all want and should be mindful of when interacting with our elders. After all, you’ll be one before you know it.
#4. We don’t actively listen
There’s almost always a subtext to every conversation or meeting with a homeowner. If you’re alert and mindful you’ll hear it throughout your conversation. Homeowners often telegraph their true underlying motives of why they’re considering a reverse mortgage. If you aren’t actively listening you’ll likely miss the opportunity to solve one of their biggest concerns and potentially the sale.
Read the original Lifehack article here.
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