Later Life Discoveries: Part 1

Women’s Voices: Too Soft for Their Own Good?

Business professional Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook and author of the new business handbook for women, Lean In, exhorts and supports women to go all the way to the top in their careers, to speak up, “sit at the table,” and in general meet men on the turf men have always taken for granted. She’s a welcome mentor to young women on their way up.

Reverse Mortgage Borrowers

But what about older women? While there have always been a few standout women leaders, from Golda Meir to Hillary Clinton, they’ve been the exception. Most older women, especially those who grew up in the 1920s, 30s and 40s, were raised to be deferential and to manage a household. If they worked in the business world, it was often in a support capacity. What does this mean now that they’re retired, or nearly so? They may be back-burnering their own needs, either because they’re still putting others first, or simply because they “don’t want to make a fuss.” And this can translate into real financial or health challenges.

Here’s what one Boomer-aged man discovered:

A few years ago I suggested that my mother, who was in her 70s, do something that would help her with her Social Security. I live in a different city, and when I visited her I asked if she had taken care of it. She had not, saying it was too much trouble. I made a phone call and handled matters in just a few minutes. Then she told me that in many instances, older women are not taken seriously, are ignored or are taken advantage of financially.

“This was a revelation to me! Since that experience I’ve learned she was right a lot of the time. Many older people (men as well as women) don’t want to be bothered making changes…even small ones. Older women, especially, will often benefit when either a younger person or a man accompanies them when repairs are needed or financial matters are under discussion.”

So we can see that it’s not sexist, but simply practical, for younger men to support mature women in speaking up and taking steps to meet their needs.

As a reverse mortgage professional, this might mean including adult children in the process with elderly clients. Everyone learns the details of what a reverse mortgage entails, without diminishing the senior’s role or the importance of thoroughly understanding the finer points of a complex, life-altering transaction.

By the time their grandchildren are ready to consider a reverse mortgage, no doubt the women will be initiating the call!

 

7 comments

Warren Strycker July 9, 2013 at 3:20 am

Good topic/timing. It’s not easy for older seniors to make decisions and the government is making it even more difficult by casting doubt on the RM decision. LOs have there hands full.

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Amara Rose July 9, 2013 at 10:54 am

Hi Warren ~

Thanks for your feedback! I think you’ll really appreciate Part 2 as well ~ look for it next Tuesday.

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Warren Strycker July 10, 2013 at 3:24 am

I’ll look forward to it. Good to have your thoughts.

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James E. Veale, CPA, MBT July 11, 2013 at 11:18 am

Up until the topic of reverse mortgages was addressed, the remarks about long held views of the place of men and women in society is on point even on a worldwide basis. The remarks, however, about reverse mortgages were odd.

Until 2002 per HUD publicly released stats, over 50% of all new HECM borrowers were single women. During fiscal 1990, the percentage was 57.3% and has falling off each fiscal year thereafter with fiscal 2012 coming at 40.1%. Single men comprised just under 17% of new borrowers in fiscal 1990 and have never risen above 21.8%. The difference are multiple borrowers including married couples.

The dominant HECM borrowing group has always been independent older women. I have worked with many such women in California and generally they do not fit the mold pictured in the article. Without these women, the reverse mortgage industry would be in much bigger trouble than it is right now.

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Amara Rose July 11, 2013 at 3:30 pm

Hello James ~

Perhaps there is a geographical difference; certainly California leads the nation in being progressive on a number of fronts, which may include more independently-minded older women. Which, as you observe, is a positive for the reverse mortgage industry overall.

However, regardless of the percentages, it still makes sense to support senior women in doing something men have been raised to do from birth: speak up and stand up for their needs.

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